Who's In Your Corner? Creating a Support System That Works For You

As people, we naturally seek connection. Human beings evolved to rely on communities for comfort and support, and research shows that strong support systems promote better mental health outcomes. While many of us look to family for that support, this isn’t always possible. In some families—especially where mental health remains a taboo topic—it can feel unsafe or unrealistic to rely on biological relatives.

Creating a Support System That Works For You

That’s where chosen family comes in. The term, often used in LGBTQIA+ communities, describes the networks of friends, mentors, and loved ones people build when their biological families are unable or unwilling to provide the support they need. A chosen family offers the same care, love, and presence as a traditional family, but it’s rooted in intentional relationships.

You might be wondering: Who can be part of your chosen family? The answer is anyone who makes you feel loved and supported. This can include close friends, a friend’s family, members of a support group, peers you meet online, or people who share your hobbies and passions. What matters most is the trust, care, and sense of belonging they bring into your life.

Reflect on Your Support System

as you think about your own support system:

• Who is currently there for you when you need help? How do they show up for you?

• Are your emotional needs being met in your current relationships (friendships, romantic, or otherwise)?

• Is there someone in regular contact with you who notices when you’re stressed?

• Can you recognize your own signs of stress or burnout? If not, what strategies might help you build that awareness?

• When you do notice stress, what self-care practices could you implement to help?

• Does your current support system make you feel truly supported—and does it provide the care you deserve? (Because yes, you do deserve it!)

• Do you also offer support to others in your life? Are your relationships mutual, or mostly one-sided?

Why Reciprocity Matters

A healthy support system isn’t just about receiving care—it’s about reciprocity. Trust and safety are built when support flows both ways, making the relationship stronger and more sustainable. Take time to notice who consistently fills that role in your life. These connections not only carry us through hard times but also help us celebrate the good ones.

Strengthening Your Support System

Of course, building a support system isn’t always easy. If you find yourself struggling, you don’t have to do it alone. Creating a support system that works for you can be challenging. Support groups, community spaces, and therapy can be powerful resources to help you navigate challenges and strengthen your network of care.

At Wellness Tree Counseling, our skilled team of counselors can help you cultivate resilience, build meaningful support systems, and develop the tools to care for yourself. Contact us today to book an intake screening and begin your journey toward healing and connection.