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How to Build Resilience in Difficult Times

Tips for developing emotional resilience and bouncing.

We cannot live a life without challenges and adversity. It is natural for us to find it difficult to thrive during these times, at the same time, that doesn't mean that we are without tools that can help us survive such adversity. One tool that can support us in our time of need is a human trait that everyone possesses, and that everyone can nurture. This trait is resilience.

What is resilience?

It is our ability to adapt to challenging situations and overcome adversity.

There are many things that can increase or decrease resilience.

Today we are going to talk about things that we can actively do to increase our resilience during difficult times. These are tips that can be extremely helpful to come back to while dealing with challenges, but since resilience is a trait that can be fostered and nurtured, we recommend following these tips even at times of peace, calmness, and relaxation.

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1. Self-awareness:

Being aware of thoughts and feelings and understanding them is very beneficial to building resilience. As you understand how you respond to stress.

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2. Self-Care:

Self-care is taking care of your emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical well-being. Making sure that you are eating enough, seeking support when you need to, meditating, or engaging in other spiritual activities, is important to maintain a healthy mind and body. The healthier you feel, and the more capable you are of taking care of yourself, the easier it will be to be resilient in times of stress or difficulty.

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3. Maintain perspective:

It is important to remember that adversity is a part of life, and it doesn't define your entire existence.

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4. Seek support:

In times of adversity we sometimes think that we should go at it alone, but sometimes the best thing we can do for ourselves is ask for help, having that support can help us move through challenges, and come out the other side.

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5. Maintain a routine:

Sometimes it is enough to know that your loved one is safe. We all have more challenging days than others, so make sure you set firm boundaries and practice self-care. Take time from your day that is strictly for you. Take a walk, draw a nice bath, or go out with a few friends. Remember, your loved ones may benefit from your support, avoid blaming yourself when you need a break or if you can’t show up all the time. In the end, you are only human.

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6. Set goals:

Having an idea of what we want to accomplish, and where we want to be can help us maintain perspective, and have a sense of purpose and direction. It is important to make sure that these goals are realistic and achievable.

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7. Be Self-compassionate:

We can sometimes be hard on ourselves, and especially at times of adversity it’s important to give ourselves grace, and treat ourselves with compassion, and kindness.

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8. Set boundaries:

When we are going through challenges, it may be difficult to be there for others, and show up for them, because at this time it’s important to show up for ourselves. So it's important to set boundaries and conserve our energy as we move through difficult times.

Building resilience is an ongoing process that requires patience, so don’t be too hard on yourself and give yourself grace as you make your way through hardships. Remember to seek professional help if you need it, so don’t hesitate to reach out to us, and start your journey of building resilience and wellness.

Reach out today to schedule a free phone consultation if you or your loved one would like to speak with one of our Psychotherapists.


About Wellness Tree Counseling...

Our mission at Wellness Tree Counseling is to promote wellness through a culturally sensitive lens so that individuals, families and communities are encouraged to rise to their full potential and engage life in meaningful ways.

Our vision is to provide the BIPOC community with comprehensive holistic care that empowers and equips them with skills to work toward improved mental health and well-being. We take great pride in treating the whole-person.

At Wellness Tree Counseling, we value treating our clients and community with C.A.R.E. (Compassion, Affirming, Respect, & Empathy).

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